Are you bracing yourself for awkward questions and unsolicited advice from family this holiday season?
You’re not alone. New research reveals that nearly half of people receive unwanted advice from their families during the holidays — whether they’re single or in a relationship. A survey of 2,000 participants by the dating app Flirtini found that the issue is so pervasive that over 1 in 5 aren’t looking forward to Christmas celebrations at all! Even more surprising? 1 in 6 say their family and friends are their main source of holiday stress.
1. Master the art of polite deflection
When Aunt Susan suggests that you “settle down,” smile and change the topic to something she enjoys discussing, such as her garden or favorite recipes. Redirecting communicates your respect for her input without engaging. The idea here is to keep a humorous tone: “That’s sweet of you to care!” “How is the new greenhouse coming along?” It keeps the peace and shifts attention away from your romantic life.
2. Set boundaries with humor
Before things get awkward, prepare a playful one-liner to diffuse unsolicited advice. For example: “Thanks for the advice, but I’m taking a holiday from relationship talk—Santa’s orders!” Humor signals that you’re not looking for input without seeming defensive.
3. Team up with an ally
Find a family member who is understanding, not invasive, and can help redirect conversations. A simple “Can you help me out here?” look can do wonders. Allies can change the subject or lighten the mood with a joke. Having someone by your side in these situations might make dealing with intrusive questions less stressful and more manageable.
4. Share just enough to satisfy curiosity
If someone insists on knowing about your relationship status, give a short and neutral answer that ends the topic fast: “I’m happy where I am right now, but thanks for asking!” Avoid oversharing or defending your choices. Keeping it short makes it clear you’re not inviting a deeper discussion while still respecting their interest in your life.
5. Create moments to excuse yourself
If the conversation gets too overwhelming, plan for a graceful exit. Offer to help in the kitchen, play with the kids, or take charge of refilling drinks. These little moments of escape let you recharge and avoid prolonged interactions. Plus, being helpful or playful shifts the focus away from you entirely, naturally diffusing tension without confrontation.
